Woman Invites Herself to Her Boyfriend's Family Vacation and Doesn't Understand the Problem

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    Font - AITA for personally inviting myself to my boyfriend's family vacation? okay so i (18F) moved away from my hometown the same weekend my (M 17) boyfriend did. He moved way up north with his family and i moved down south. We now live nearly 1000 miles from each other. Anyways i haven't seen him for about 3 months until yesterday. Him and his family planned a vacation at a very popular amusement park not even 3 hours away from my house.
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    Font - Because i enrolled in my now local college for a cosmetology program and got a new job i had no idea when i was going to get to see him again. So i jumped at the opportunity and asked for those days off work a month ahead of time. On my way there i come to realize that i'm not welcome. My boyfriend tried telling me that because him and his parents are celebrating his sisters 21st birthday that this vacation was reserved for family only. Meanwhile the sisters gf (wlw) is considered family
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    Font - On my way there my boyfriend texted me about how they felt about me coming. He said his parents didn't like that i was "inviting myself into their personal vacation." They were originally trying to say we were only allowed to see each other for 1 day out of the 4 days we'll all be there. I was also not allowed into the park with them. Now they did have a couple reservations, which of course i have to respect. But nothing that takes up a whole day. They're a very close knit family and have
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    Font - After my bf made it clear i wasn't welcome i got really upset and took it out on him a little bit. No personal attacks against him but i made it clear i was offended. It turns out i was stressing him out and he was becoming as upset as me. I've never stressed my bf out and we've never argued about anything besides who loves the other more. So i apologized and we quickly made up. I let him know that i was just jealous of him because my family is very emotionally and physically split apart
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    Font - Although his parents have now given a bit of leeway to our time together i'm still very upset and felt a lot of tension with them earlier. I was really uncomfortable. I really think they don't like me. It sucks because i'm crazy in love with their son and i've done everything and more to prove that. Am i the hole?
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    Font - o GlitterSparkleDevine. 5 hr. ago Pooperintendant [59] I'm really confused about why you think your behavior here is okay. You invaded their vacation knowingly without permission or consent then manipulated your boyfriend into forgiving you without an apology or any remorse. Of course his family doesn't like you right now - you're being selfish and ruining their family vacation because you don't understand that no means no. YTA 647 Reply Share Logical-Wasabi7402 - 2 hr. ago het (E
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    Font - GlassSandwich 9315 5 hr. ago Professor Emerits [75] YTA. You made plans that involved other people, without talking to those people. You don't have a right to be mad because they didn't go along with it when you tried to hijack a birthday celebration. 257 Reply Share
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    Font - TreeTrunkTrick - 3 hr. ago YTA. Sounds like he told you in a variety of ways that this was family only time and you ignored that boundary. Then you got upset, causing drama. 29 Reply Share

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